I read an article recently where they said that people born with Down syndrome was on the decline. But, the reason for this is not what you think. The reason it is declining is because people are choosing to abort rather than have a child with any kind of disability. That is sad and unfortunate.
This is not going to be an article all about the joys of Down syndrome and how they are always happy. No, this article is nothing like that, at all.
Having a child with a disability, any disability, is hard. There are therapies and expenses that mount up quickly. It often takes a toll on the primary caregiver and the family. From here on out, not only is your child different, but your family is different from most around you. Typically, you need to keep a close eye on your child, at all times. I could go on and on.
What really makes this situation sad and unfortunate is that people are missing out on learning about self-sacrifice and contentment.
From this point forward for the rest of my daughter’s life, I will always have to take her into consideration with anything and everything I do. I cannot, ever, just go and do whatever I want, whenever I want. Some would consider this unfortunate, but I have learned contentment.
Self-sacrifice and contentment are sisters. Kind of like salt and pepper, peanut butter and jelly, and well you get the point.
The definition of sacrifice, from The American Heritage Student Dictionary, is:
The act of giving up something of highly valued for the sake of something else considered to be of greater value.
The definition of self-sacrifice is
Sacrifice of one’s own interest or well-being for the sake of others or for a cause.
The definition of content and contentment is
Desiring no more than what one has; satisfied.
People in the world without a thought for God, find these concepts rather old fashioned and outdated. Hence, the decline in babies born with Down syndrome.
But, what are they actually missing out on? Why is self-sacrifice and contentment even important in the first place? What is the point here?
Whether you have a relationship with God or not, this life is just not about us. We sometimes think it is, but bottom line it is always about more than us. It is about relationship. Now, God is the one who ultimately wants the relationship with us. But, he was also gracious in providing a way for us to have relationships with each other.
Have you ever noticed that relationships are basically about give and take? Most people in any kind of committed relationship with another individual do not get their way all the time. Most people do not want to spend all their time with someone just like themselves. In fact, the odds of finding someone who likes every single thing you like are astronomical. No, instead we tend to seek people out who complement us and our personality.
It is the exact same with God. In order for this to all work together for the greater good, we all need to learn give and take.
Putting someone before yourself is a form of love.
Caring for someone else who cannot care for themselves is the ultimate form of love.
So, just what are all these people missing out on who abort a baby because they think they might have Down syndrome?
Bottom line the ultimate love. Learning to put someone before yourself and being satisfied with the situation.
Is this fun? No. Is this hard? Yes. Is this harder still for a lifetime? Definitely. Is it worth it?
What do you think?